Coaching, Tools and Hope
for Parents of
Unique Learners

Unique Learner — a student who processes and learns differently than traditional school environments may currently support; whose various intelligences, talents and creativity are often not fully recognized.

The biggest challenge in helping our kids be fulfilled in their lives and thrive in school is that there are too few opportunities for them to experience their unique strengths and talents in positive and productive ways.
— Michele Garber, Founder, Be Brilliant U

The best way for us to break through to help our Unique Learners realize and pursue their gifts and talents?

Arm parents with hope, tools, and resources so they can support their child’s specific needs at home and in school. And empower them to partner with their child’s teachers to create the most positive overall school experience.

Why Does the Problem Persist?

Often, there’s a lack of shared understanding and collaboration for the most appropriate and productive solutions to support Unique Learners in positively experiencing themselves and their lives — and how that impacts their motivation, level of engagement, participation and contribution at home and at school.

Educational Institutions including Harvard, John Hopkins, NYU, USC and the Heart Math Institute are contributing to the rapidly growing body of research on the neuroscience behind both stress and learning, as well as emotions and learning.

One of the leading researchers and consultants in the field, Victoria Tennant, M. Ed., addressed this issue in her compelling research-based article, “The Powerful Impact of Stress on Learning”:

“Negative stress impedes learning, memory and performance. When we are emotionally upset we say we ‘just can’t think straight.’ This is because unmanaged stress shuts much of the thinking brain down. Accompanying this are heart and brain patterns that create chaos in our brain’s ability to process information.”

Unique Learner — a student who processes and learns dierently than traditional school environments may currently support; whose various intelligences, talents and creativity are often not fully recognized.

The biggest challenge in helping our kids be fullled in their lives and thrive in school is that there are too few opportunities for them to experience their unique strengths and talents in positive and productive ways.
— Michele Garber, Founder, Be Brilliant U

The best way for us to break through to help our Unique Learners realize and pursue their gifts and talents?

We Practice
What We Teach

You so want to support your son or daughter and see them happy and feeling good. You want them to experience pride and joy and feel good about themselves. You want to get them support but don’t know where to turn.

You’ve likely tried to find help for so long now that you’re beyond frustrated and don’t know whom to trust.

I’m here to say that I understand. I’m here to support you in this process. I’m the parent of a Unique Learner myself and an innovator who thinks outside the box, (and often discards the box all together). I’ll meet your Unique Learner where they are and help them see their own brilliance.

Join us for the inaugural edition of UP! — a pilot program created to help you — the parents of Unique Learners — keep your children’s daily struggles from taking their toll on them and you. To help you find some peace and understanding. And to connect with hope and support.

Taking action is key to conquering the helplessness you may feel.

Lindsay-Prospect“I first met Michele a dozen years ago when my children were ages 10, 8 and 5.  My oldest, a boy, had been diagnosed with sensory integration issues as a toddler, received many therapies and was doing well.  I thought I was a fairly educated and competent Mom from going through that process with him and not only surviving it but also seeing him thrive with the extra help.

But my middle child, a daughter, was a whole different challenge.  She was experiencing a lot of difficulty at school socially.  She was a very high academic achiever but could not seem to navigate the rules of the game socially with other girls.  She would seem okay at school but would come home angry and hurt and take that frustration home to roost, creating an atmosphere of volatility in our home that affected all of us. We tried therapists and testing to determine and label what was going on in an attempt to better help her. We endured label after label, from Asperger’s to anxiety disorder to oppositional defiance disorder.  None of them seemed to fully fit, and yet, she seemed to have aspects of all of them.

Our home was becoming a battleground where she wounded with words and sometimes physically. Her anger pervaded so many of our family activities that we would have to resort to responding with punishments like time-outs and removal from settings to control her impact on her siblings. I knew we weren’t handling her well but despaired of knowing how to respond to her better. I was gradually becoming a weary and defeated and resentful mother and the strain of managing her was impacting my marriage.

A marriage counselor who we sought to help our family gave Michele’s name to us. At the time, Michele conducted her consultations with home visits in the belief that a child does best in their own safe environment and also for her to be able to see the family dynamic, which is always part of the equation. I knew the first time I met Michele that she was going to “get it”.  It was the undefinable way in which she listened to all I said and connected with me.  I sometimes think that she supported me during those next few years as much as she supported my daughter. She came weekly to meet with my daughter and would always check in with me first to get the current pulse of the house and what had transpired during the week before heading off to a private space with my daughter.

Ultimately my daughter learned from Michele how to navigate social situations. She had a confidante to talk with who helped her through the difficult pre-teen years. She started to have friends and understand that people will still sometimes disappoint you even when you have done nothing wrong. She formed a small but close group of girlfriends that stayed close for their high school years. She is now a junior in college at a top school.

I credit Michele with helping us save a brilliant young girl from the pits of low self-esteem, raise her up to be able to cognitively understand relationships and not just survive but thrive and celebrate aspects of herself that are unique and different and part of why she is so wonderful. Our family has slowly and steadily healed from those years, yet we did so without forfeiting her taking responsibility for her impact on others.  She doesn’t get a pass when she says something “too honest”, but we do have a sense of humor about it now that we never would have been able to have without Michele’s bringing us that perspective – the perspective of her being unique and brilliant and perfect.  After all, we are all beautiful in God’s eyes; it’s the rest of us that have trouble seeing it!”

– Lindsay P. (Parent)

Lindsay-Prospect“I first met Michele a dozen years ago when my children were ages 10, 8 and 5.  My oldest, a boy, had been diagnosed with sensory integration issues as a toddler, received many therapies and was doing well.  I thought I was a fairly educated and competent Mom from going through that process with him and not only surviving it but also seeing him thrive with the extra help.

But my middle child, a daughter, was a whole different challenge.  She was experiencing a lot of difficulty at school socially.  She was a very high academic achiever but could not seem to navigate the rules of the game socially with other girls.  She would seem okay at school but would come home angry and hurt and take that frustration home to roost, creating an atmosphere of volatility in our home that affected all of us. We tried therapists and testing to determine and label what was going on in an attempt to better help her. We endured label after label, from Asperger’s to anxiety disorder to oppositional defiance disorder.  None of them seemed to fully fit, and yet, she seemed to have aspects of all of them.

Our home was becoming a battleground where she wounded with words and sometimes physically. Her anger pervaded so many of our family activities that we would have to resort to responding with punishments like time-outs and removal from settings to control her impact on her siblings. I knew we weren’t handling her well but despaired of knowing how to respond to her better. I was gradually becoming a weary and defeated and resentful mother and the strain of managing her was impacting my marriage.

A marriage counselor who we sought to help our family gave Michele’s name to us. At the time, Michele conducted her consultations with home visits in the belief that a child does best in their own safe environment and also for her to be able to see the family dynamic, which is always part of the equation. I knew the first time I met Michele that she was going to “get it”.  It was the undefinable way in which she listened to all I said and connected with me.  I sometimes think that she supported me during those next few years as much as she supported my daughter. She came weekly to meet with my daughter and would always check in with me first to get the current pulse of the house and what had transpired during the week before heading off to a private space with my daughter.

Ultimately my daughter learned from Michele how to navigate social situations. She had a confidante to talk with who helped her through the difficult pre-teen years. She started to have friends and understand that people will still sometimes disappoint you even when you have done nothing wrong. She formed a small but close group of girlfriends that stayed close for their high school years. She is now a junior in college at a top school.

I credit Michele with helping us save a brilliant young girl from the pits of low self-esteem, raise her up to be able to cognitively understand relationships and not just survive but thrive and celebrate aspects of herself that are unique and different and part of why she is so wonderful. Our family has slowly and steadily healed from those years, yet we did so without forfeiting her taking responsibility for her impact on others.  She doesn’t get a pass when she says something “too honest”, but we do have a sense of humor about it now that we never would have been able to have without Michele’s bringing us that perspective – the perspective of her being unique and brilliant and perfect.  After all, we are all beautiful in God’s eyes; it’s the rest of us that have trouble seeing it!”

– Lindsay P. (Parent)

Join Us for This 6-Week Group Coaching Program:

  1. Enjoy live weekly meetings with a small group of no more than 6 families. These 90-minute interactive sessions include both teaching and coaching as well as opportunities to build relationships with other families experiencing similar challenges.
    (NOTE: There are two options for enrollment. In-person and virtual.)
  2. One 60-minute private coaching session with Michele to assist you with any specific issues you’re having.
  3. Get answers to your pressing questions and network in our private Facebook Group.
  4. Get instant access to recordings of all meetings (when you join the virtual group) so that you can review them again at any time.

These stories are just two of my experiences working with children who learn differently – what I call Unique Learners.  My work started here and has transformed over time to also include young people who have a unique learning process or don’t test well and tend to fall through the cracks for a variety of reasons.

Every family I work with is different but I know there are parents out there who are like me and those I have supported over the years.  You so want to support your son or daughter and see him or her happy and feeling good.  You want them to experience pride and joy and feel good about themselves.  You want to get them support but don’t know where to turn. Many of you have been trying to find help for so long now, that you don’t know whom to trust with your son or daughter and with your family as a whole.

I am here to say that I understand. I am here to support you in this process. I am an innovator and I like to think outside the box. I will meet your Unique Learner where they are at and help them to see their own brilliance. Together, we will all ignite their learning and your family back to wholeness.

Transcending Labels

“To say that Michele’s presence in our lives was a God-send may seem hyperbolic. But I cannot praise or thank her enough for her expertise, patience, and inspiration based on principles of Love. She changed our lives, as she did Dimitri’s, by encouraging and honing his skills, making him feel whole, worthy, transcending the label of “bad kid.” Michele is unquestionably a great teacher with a profound sense of values and a kindness that hallmarks her ability to work with children in often-disguised need. “ — Bill N.

 Here’s What the UP! Program Covers:

The Art of Possibility Parenting: Empowering Your Unique Learner

In our first week, you will ...

  • Meet your fellow participants, build rapport with each other and your facilitator, Michele Garber, and understand the shared language of the course.
  • Get familiar with the Be Brilliant U philosophy and goals.
  • Grasp the nuances, strengths, and challenges of a “Unique Learner.”
  • Learn the “Possibility Parenting” approach so you can begin to shift your relationship with your child immediately.

True Potential: Where Our Unique Learners Can Take Us

At this session, you will ...

  • Learn how to help your child describe and understand their strengths and challenges without using old labels or judgments so they are free to reach new heights.
  • Gain tools to help your child expand on their strengths and mitigate challenges so they become more confident and self-sufficient.
  • Build new communication skills for expressing frustrations with compassion so that your family has more peace and stability.

De-stress the Classroom: What Emotions have to do with Learning

At this meeting, you will ...

  • Learn the causes and signs of physical, mental, and emotional stresses (specific to living as a Unique Learner) for both you and your child so that you both address it sooner and more effectively.
  • Understand the connection between emotions and learning so that you can help create the best possible learning environment for your child.
  • Gain new communication strategies and tools for keeping stresses to a minimum so that there’s more space and potential for real learning to happen.

De-stress the Home: How to Recognize the Alien On Your Face

During this session you will ...

  • Gain deep empathy for the daily challenges of your Unique Learner so that you can minimize your own frustrations.
  • Learn how to help your Unique Learner build self-care strategies so they can become happily independent.
  • Understand the positive potential for growth and learning that comes from managing daily stresses in a constructive way so you’re highly motivated to create sustainable change at home.

Innovative Study Habits: Setting up Structures for Less Stress and Greater Success

During this week's meeting you will ...

  • Understand the necessary physical elements for supporting good study habits for your Unique Learner so you can create them at home.
  • Understand how to create an atmosphere of productivity and learning that takes into account your child’s unique learning style and gifts so you can build something that fits their needs.
  • Walk away with an actionable plan to support your Unique Learner’s homework and study habits so they’re set up to succeed.

Reach True Potential: See What’s Possible So You Can Get There Together

In our final session you will...

  • Understand the ways outcomes differ when we focus on problems/weaknesses vs. possibilities/strengths.
  • Gain tools and strategies for advocating for your child inside and outside of the school setting.
  • Learn how to help your Unique Learner build good habits, positive behaviors, and expectations that motivate them.

Lindsay-Prospect“I first met Michele a dozen years ago when my children were ages 10, 8 and 5.  My oldest, a boy, had been diagnosed with sensory integration issues as a toddler, received many therapies and was doing well.  I thought I was a fairly educated and competent Mom from going through that process with him and not only surviving it but also seeing him thrive with the extra help.

But my middle child, a daughter, was a whole different challenge.  She was experiencing a lot of difficulty at school socially.  She was a very high academic achiever but could not seem to navigate the rules of the game socially with other girls.  She would seem okay at school but would come home angry and hurt and take that frustration home to roost, creating an atmosphere of volatility in our home that affected all of us. We tried therapists and testing to determine and label what was going on in an attempt to better help her. We endured label after label, from Asperger’s to anxiety disorder to oppositional defiance disorder.  None of them seemed to fully fit, and yet, she seemed to have aspects of all of them.

Our home was becoming a battleground where she wounded with words and sometimes physically. Her anger pervaded so many of our family activities that we would have to resort to responding with punishments like time-outs and removal from settings to control her impact on her siblings. I knew we weren’t handling her well but despaired of knowing how to respond to her better. I was gradually becoming a weary and defeated and resentful mother and the strain of managing her was impacting my marriage.

A marriage counselor who we sought to help our family gave Michele’s name to us. At the time, Michele conducted her consultations with home visits in the belief that a child does best in their own safe environment and also for her to be able to see the family dynamic, which is always part of the equation. I knew the first time I met Michele that she was going to “get it”.  It was the undefinable way in which she listened to all I said and connected with me.  I sometimes think that she supported me during those next few years as much as she supported my daughter. She came weekly to meet with my daughter and would always check in with me first to get the current pulse of the house and what had transpired during the week before heading off to a private space with my daughter.

Ultimately my daughter learned from Michele how to navigate social situations. She had a confidante to talk with who helped her through the difficult pre-teen years. She started to have friends and understand that people will still sometimes disappoint you even when you have done nothing wrong. She formed a small but close group of girlfriends that stayed close for their high school years. She is now a junior in college at a top school.

I credit Michele with helping us save a brilliant young girl from the pits of low self-esteem, raise her up to be able to cognitively understand relationships and not just survive but thrive and celebrate aspects of herself that are unique and different and part of why she is so wonderful. Our family has slowly and steadily healed from those years, yet we did so without forfeiting her taking responsibility for her impact on others.  She doesn’t get a pass when she says something “too honest”, but we do have a sense of humor about it now that we never would have been able to have without Michele’s bringing us that perspective – the perspective of her being unique and brilliant and perfect.  After all, we are all beautiful in God’s eyes; it’s the rest of us that have trouble seeing it!”

– Lindsay P. (Parent)

Lindsay-Prospect“I first met Michele a dozen years ago when my children were ages 10, 8 and 5.  My oldest, a boy, had been diagnosed with sensory integration issues as a toddler, received many therapies and was doing well.  I thought I was a fairly educated and competent Mom from going through that process with him and not only surviving it but also seeing him thrive with the extra help.

But my middle child, a daughter, was a whole different challenge.  She was experiencing a lot of difficulty at school socially.  She was a very high academic achiever but could not seem to navigate the rules of the game socially with other girls.  She would seem okay at school but would come home angry and hurt and take that frustration home to roost, creating an atmosphere of volatility in our home that affected all of us. We tried therapists and testing to determine and label what was going on in an attempt to better help her. We endured label after label, from Asperger’s to anxiety disorder to oppositional defiance disorder.  None of them seemed to fully fit, and yet, she seemed to have aspects of all of them.

Our home was becoming a battleground where she wounded with words and sometimes physically. Her anger pervaded so many of our family activities that we would have to resort to responding with punishments like time-outs and removal from settings to control her impact on her siblings. I knew we weren’t handling her well but despaired of knowing how to respond to her better. I was gradually becoming a weary and defeated and resentful mother and the strain of managing her was impacting my marriage.

A marriage counselor who we sought to help our family gave Michele’s name to us. At the time, Michele conducted her consultations with home visits in the belief that a child does best in their own safe environment and also for her to be able to see the family dynamic, which is always part of the equation. I knew the first time I met Michele that she was going to “get it”.  It was the undefinable way in which she listened to all I said and connected with me.  I sometimes think that she supported me during those next few years as much as she supported my daughter. She came weekly to meet with my daughter and would always check in with me first to get the current pulse of the house and what had transpired during the week before heading off to a private space with my daughter.

Ultimately my daughter learned from Michele how to navigate social situations. She had a confidante to talk with who helped her through the difficult pre-teen years. She started to have friends and understand that people will still sometimes disappoint you even when you have done nothing wrong. She formed a small but close group of girlfriends that stayed close for their high school years. She is now a junior in college at a top school.

I credit Michele with helping us save a brilliant young girl from the pits of low self-esteem, raise her up to be able to cognitively understand relationships and not just survive but thrive and celebrate aspects of herself that are unique and different and part of why she is so wonderful. Our family has slowly and steadily healed from those years, yet we did so without forfeiting her taking responsibility for her impact on others.  She doesn’t get a pass when she says something “too honest”, but we do have a sense of humor about it now that we never would have been able to have without Michele’s bringing us that perspective – the perspective of her being unique and brilliant and perfect.  After all, we are all beautiful in God’s eyes; it’s the rest of us that have trouble seeing it!”

– Lindsay P. (Parent)

Some kids just don’t feel like they fit in because of how they learn, take in and process information or experience life. These kids usually end up with labels. Labels like having learning differences, being special needs, ‘twice exceptional’, having a high IQ or being gifted.

Being labeled with any of these qualifiers can feel heavy for any kid. The extent to which they can let go of all that weightiness is the extent to which they can shine.

We are here to lift off the weight and instill hope for kids and parents who feel like giving up, but are still hoping to find a way to share their gifts and shine.

Ready to get started?  Please contact us here via our contact form.

 

 

 

To your brilliance,
Michele

The UP! Program Begins: Date to Be Announced

There are two groups of just six families (parents) each: one in-person 45 North of New York City) and one virtual (via Zoom video conferencing).

[Meeting Dates/Times/Places to Be Announced]

If it’s a good fit and you’re accepted into the program, the enrollment cost is $495.*

*Pilot program participants receive a substantial discount of our anticipated full price of $895 in exchange for giving us detailed feedback.
Payment plans available.

All virtual sessions will be recorded so you can review again at any time.

 FAQs

What sort of computer equipment do I need to participate in the virtual group?

There are a few things you’ll need:

  • A decent webcam (some built in ones don’t give the quality you need).
  • A decent microphone — the one built into your computer may be okay, but an external microphone is better. Samsom GoMic is a good option.
  • A pair of headphones or earbuds so that sound from your speakers doesn’t circle back through your microphone and cause feedback chaos.

Should I bring my kids to these sessions?

Because this program was created specifically for PARENTS, we ask that you have care for your children for the weekly classes. This will keep our time together productive and allow you to discuss topics you might not otherwise feel comfortable with in front of your kids.

If I need to cancel, is there a refund policy?

Because this program is small and intimate, once we begin our work together as a group, we won’t be able to fill your seat or refund your enrollment fee.

This is why we ask you to apply first and chat with us beforehand to ensure a good fit. Consider your options carefully and don’t rush into anything. It’s important to us that you make a decision that works for you and your family.

If you have an emergency and need to withdraw, you may request a refund up to two weeks prior to our start date, and we’ll be happy to give you a full refund, minus a $50 processing fee..

If you need to cancel your registration after that date, but before our group begins, we offer the following options UNLESS you find a suitable replacement for your spot in the program:

  • Up to one week prior to start: 75% refund.
  • Up to 24 hours before start: 50% refund.
  • After we begin: NO refunds will be available